One of the biggest hindrances to your growth in life is your anger. It causes your downfall every time. The earlier you realize this fact, the better it is for you. The best way to move forward in life is to overcome anger. However, is it possible for everyone in the world to do that? It is admittedly very tough, but still possible. Motivational courses such as those conducted by Landmark Forum can help. Let us look at a small anecdote that you can often listen to as a perfect story that helps in controlling one’s anger.
It is a story of the teenager who used to get angry at the drop of a hat. His father tried out various ways to teach him that this anger leads him nowhere. It is better to let go of the same and realize his real potential. The boy was finding it difficult to understand this logic. His anger made him quite unpopular with people around him.
In spite of this negative quality, his father loved him very much. He did not want to see his son fritter away his life in this manner. He decided to take up a new approach. He bought a hammer and a set of nails. Handing them over to his son, he said that every time he felt angry, he should hammer one nail into the wooden fence. The aim was to reduce the nails hit each day.
The first day saw him hammering ten nails. The second day he managed to reduce this to nine. The father started appreciating this reduction in front of everyone. Taking encouragement, the boy began controlling his anger. By the end of the 30th day, he did not have to hammer a single nail into the fence. He was free from hatred.
His father appreciated him. However, the boy noticed that the fence was strewn with nails and looked ugly. He asked his father whether he could remove the nails now. The father told him that he could remove one nail per day provided he did not show any anger symptoms on that day. By the end of three months, the boy had removed all the nails from the fence. He proudly announced this fact to the father.
His father appreciated him again but asked him to follow him to the fence. He asked him what the boy thought about the wall now. The boy said it was full of holes. The father replied that this is the same thing with life. The scars remain. His anger had caused harm to the fence. In spite of controlling the anger, the holes remain. It drove home the point that the fence/life would have been more beautiful had the boy not lost his temper.
Landmark Forum review uses this story to impress upon its participants the need to let go with the anger. Therefore, the next time you feel angry, go ahead and drive the nail into the fence.